As I‘ve read many people before, I found Pattberg at Substack at one of my darkest times. He was a mysterious writer and wrote what sounded incredible and from another world. Thank you for the journey!
I don’t find it so bad. Everyone gets what they want girls get money men get sex. What’s the issue? Women who don’t like it get foreigners. But also women who really don’t like sex can be fine allowing their husbands to do what they want
Actually, I suspect that the “Chinese culture “ you refer to is the culture of the cities. The villages were quite different. Read Pearl Buck’s The Good Earth for a different view.
How could there not be a "mister" culture if women are paid to sleep with men? Female polyandry (prostitution) is everywhere more widespread than male polygyny.
I live in Wuhan, have a Chinese (university professor) wife, and the pragmatic and practical approach by women to these relationships is somewhat refreshing to this Westerner. The unwritten rules are apparently "keep it to yourself". Chinese women (big generality here) understand men in ways that Western women (again, generality) do not. The human species has encased itself in dogma and religiously enforced mores that, if history is any indicator, have little or nothing to do with how humans actually are. This, of course, sets off alarm bells and knee jerk reactions about impact on children, society, family, and every other thing that I have no particular opinion on.
Thanks so much for your enthusiasm! Much appreciate. Chinese (university professor) wives can be very bossy. Don't get thrown under the coffee table! ;) All the best, Kurt! We stay in touch! I salute you! T
Founded in...yes. Current reality...no. This place is as capitalist, entrepreneurial , fascinated with luxury items, and self interested activity as any place I can imagine. The necessary declarations and pledges to the commie ideal are increasingly rare, and only uttered when necessary to keep one's position in the matrix "secure". The other day, I went to the local golf course/driving range. The parking lot is full of expensive Euro cars sporting China flags on the dashboard, and there are groupies waiting for their Party sponsors to finish their round of golf. Communist? Not even close.
The Tao is the universe, speaking to you ... telling you, that you are it.
What am I even reading bro?
The best article on mistress culture I have ever read! Thank you very much! Much appreciate your insights!
As I‘ve read many people before, I found Pattberg at Substack at one of my darkest times. He was a mysterious writer and wrote what sounded incredible and from another world. Thank you for the journey!
I don’t find it so bad. Everyone gets what they want girls get money men get sex. What’s the issue? Women who don’t like it get foreigners. But also women who really don’t like sex can be fine allowing their husbands to do what they want
Love this culture sage its probably one of my top 10 on the loop.
Thank you, Dr. Pattberg! I read the Shengren! You are awesome!
Who are Tu Weming and Gu Zenkung?
“Usage” of woman?
Are unhappy marriages more common in China than the West? Or less common? Just wondering.
In all my years, I have yet to see a happy marriage. East, West, same hell.
Actually, I suspect that the “Chinese culture “ you refer to is the culture of the cities. The villages were quite different. Read Pearl Buck’s The Good Earth for a different view.
True.
Fascinating read. I did notice a lot of things mentioned in this article during my time in China.
Thanks, Ivan. Yeah, this piece was well researched. ;) Best! T
How could there not be a "mister" culture if women are paid to sleep with men? Female polyandry (prostitution) is everywhere more widespread than male polygyny.
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I live in Wuhan, have a Chinese (university professor) wife, and the pragmatic and practical approach by women to these relationships is somewhat refreshing to this Westerner. The unwritten rules are apparently "keep it to yourself". Chinese women (big generality here) understand men in ways that Western women (again, generality) do not. The human species has encased itself in dogma and religiously enforced mores that, if history is any indicator, have little or nothing to do with how humans actually are. This, of course, sets off alarm bells and knee jerk reactions about impact on children, society, family, and every other thing that I have no particular opinion on.
Great piece. Thanks much.
Thanks so much for your enthusiasm! Much appreciate. Chinese (university professor) wives can be very bossy. Don't get thrown under the coffee table! ;) All the best, Kurt! We stay in touch! I salute you! T
Yeah…bossy. I’m familiar with that.
A society founded in communism is already ethically ruined, irrespective of whatever cheating culture exists.
True, true. Best! T
Founded in...yes. Current reality...no. This place is as capitalist, entrepreneurial , fascinated with luxury items, and self interested activity as any place I can imagine. The necessary declarations and pledges to the commie ideal are increasingly rare, and only uttered when necessary to keep one's position in the matrix "secure". The other day, I went to the local golf course/driving range. The parking lot is full of expensive Euro cars sporting China flags on the dashboard, and there are groupies waiting for their Party sponsors to finish their round of golf. Communist? Not even close.
Wow. Didn't know.
wow. I think everyone in this story should get a hard kick in their shin.
Sounds good to me.